RID THE HEART OF GRUDGES AND STOP LISTENING TO SHAITAN
In Juz 13 Allah continues with the beautiful story of Prophet Yusuf (as), in which there are so many lessons to draw from. One of those lessons is the forgiveness of others. In this story, the Prophet Yusuf was taken by his brothers out into the desert and left for dead when they threw him into a well. As we know from the story, the brothers returned to their father, Prophet Yaqub (as), and claimed that his beloved son had been eaten by wolves. Prophet Ayub (as) spent many years in sorrow. He cried so much from grief that he lost his eye sight. Both Yusuf and Ayub were severely wronged by the brothers.
Many years later, when Yusuf (as) was reunited with his brothers he forgave them and Prophet Ayub (as) forgave his sons, for all the years of lies and deceit. As recovering Muslims we must learn to forgive others. Holding grudges in our own hearts is like a poison. We damage our own selves with resentments and grudges.
In our addiction we sought out reasons to get angry. Sometimes, we used to ruminate over thoughts of those who have harmed us gave us a justification to use substances or carry out our sins. In recovery, we take responsibility for those ill feelings we have towards others, and wherever possible we try to forgive the other people, so WE can move on in life. Holding grudges, hurts us more.
Shaitan loves to cause hatred among the people, especially families. Shaitan can easily cause the hearts to become fixated on something someone has done to us and cause disunity. We forget that we have wronged others and are in need of mercy and forgiveness. Sometimes, when we have been severely wronged, this can be a really hard thing to do. This is something we need to struggle on with, perhaps even seeking professional help, like counselling or other therapies. Some wrongs that have been committed against us can be so hard to forgive, in these cases we must hand it over to Allah, but not allow ourselves to allow Shaitan to cause us anguish;
“And Shaitan will say, when the matter has been decided (on The Last Day); “Verily, Allah promised you a promise of truth. And I too promised you, but I betrayed you. I had no authority over you except that I called you, and you responded to me. So blame me not, but blame your selves. I cannot help you, nor can you help me.” (14:22)
This above Verse should really make us think about our addiction, and all those times we blamed Shaitan for our behaviours. We must stop this immediately, and take responsibility for our thoughts and actions. Recovery means taking responsibility, and if we are blaming shaitan or magic or jinne then there is something wrong with our attitude. Allah has given us strategies to overcome the mischief of the shayateen, we must use these and seek refuge in Allah from them. Some of these ways include recitation of Qur’an, prayer, making duah to Allah, keeping ourselves in the state of ablution, reciting forms of dhikr and so on. We make dua to Allah to protect us from this mischief. Ameen.