Part 11 – Balancing Love Fear & Hope


Ibn Al Qayyum described a perfect faith as that which has an equal harmony of love, fear and hope in Allah. In recovery from addiction it is important that we try hard to strike that lovefearhopebalance. Like a bird with a wing of hope and a wing of fear, in order to have a balanced flight the two wings need an equal measure to fly in a straight line.

Have hope and do your best

Addicts really get a bad reputation. People look down their noses at people with an addiction, or those who have made mistakes. They make judgments and write us off as a population of wrong doers, doomed for the Fire, rejected by society. In truth, addicts are some of the nicest people you will ever meet. Most of us have had a tough deal, experienced hardship, poverty, abuse and been victims of violence and studies will demonstrate this with evidence. Despite all these hardships there are many who would give away their last penny, the clothes on their back and share their last meal. In all the sinfulness, mistakes and slip ups, there are many good deeds that Allah loves. There have been many Muslims in recovery who have cried over their sins in repentance, much more so than someone who does not have an addiction. Despair over sins has motivated us to do good deeds that have sometimes caused us to go well out of our way to fulfill them, hoping for Allah’s Mercy, Forgiveness and Help. Allah tells us about such people;

09:102 “And there are others who have acknowledged their sins, they have mixed a deed that was righteous with another that was evil. Perhaps Allah will turn to them in forgiveness. Surely, Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”

In a hadith narrated by Samurah bin Jundub ,Allah’s Messenger [SAW] said,

“Tonight two (visitors) came to me (in my dream) and took me to a town built with gold bricks and silver bricks. There, we met men who, (by) half of their bodies looked like the most handsome human beings you have ever seen, and (by) the other half, the ugliest human beings you have ever seen. Those two visitors said to those men: ‘Go and dip yourselves in that river.’ So they dipped themselves therein and then came to us, their ugliness having disappeared and they were in the most handsome shape. The visitors said, ‘This is the ‘Adn Paradise, and that is your dwelling place.’ Then they added, ‘As for those people who were half ugly and half handsome, they were those who have mixed deeds that were good with deeds that were evil, but Allâh forgave them.’ ” [Sahih Al-Bukhari, 6/4674 (O.P.196)]

prosIn fact, it only takes Allah to be Pleased with just one good deed that we did sincerely for His sake for Him to Forgive us if he so wills. There are many narrations from hadith about sinful people who Allah forgave on account of their good deeds and intentions. Remember that hadith about the man who killed 99 people. He sought out a way to try and earn Allah’s Forgiveness but died before he found what he was looking for. Because of His sincerity,99 Allah forgave him. In our addiction we lose hope. We are afraid that Allah will not forgive us and sometimes we feel like isolating away from our family and community. This is shaytan’s plan to keep us away from anything that could steer us back to the Straight Path and to prevent us from doing good deeds that could earn Allah’s Pleasure. As Allah says;

“…Do deeds! Allah will see your deeds, and His Messenger and believers. And you will be brought back to the All-Knower of the unseen and seen. Then He will inform you of what you used to do.” (09:105)

Fear Allah and avoid sin

If we truly feared Allah and His punishment we would find it very difficult to sin. Part of relapse prevention is to build up our fear of Allah. Allah warns us in several places in The Qur’an that His Punishment is Severe. He tells us the kind of destruction He has prepared for the sinners in the Hereafter. We must ponder over these verses in order to combat our desires when cravings set it and prevent relapse because we fear His Punishment.

“Oh you who believe! Be afraid of Allah, and be with those who are true” (09:119)

Love Allah

Love of Allah is something that increases as we move away from sinfulness. As we draw nearer to Him, and begin to taste the sweetness of faith, submitting to Allah becomes more pleasurable. The more we love Allah, the more He loves us in return and the more we strive to please Him.  Allah loves His servants and He wants us to go to Paradise;

“Allah calls to the Home of Peace (Paradise) and guides whom He wills to a Straight Path. For those who have done good is the best reward and even more. Neither darkness nor dust nor any humiliating disgrace shall cover their faces. They are the dwellers of Paradise, they will abide therein forever. ” (10: 25-26)

At times in our addiction we may have been angry with Allah. We had terrible shaytanic thoughts. In recovery we begin to realise that we must take responsibility for our actions;

“Truly, Allah wrongs not mankind in anything. But mankind wrong themselves” (10:44)

Allah loves His servants more than a mother loves her own baby. He is more Merciful that the mother suckling her newborn. He advises us to try and help us onto His Straight Path;

“Oh mankind! There has come to you a good advice from your Lord (The Qur’an), and a healing which is in your breasts (disease of the hearts) – a guidance and a mercy for the believers.” (10:57)

So let us strive in our recovery towards good deeds, out of love, fear and hope of Allah. It is to Allah we are heading to in our recovery. We must know that the next good deed that we do, could be the very one deed that takes us to Paradise. Allah says this;

“Neither you do any deed nor recite any portion of the Qur’an, nor you do any deed (good or evil) but We are Witness thereof when you are doing it. And nothing is hidden from your Lord, so much as the weight of an atom on the earth or in the sky. Or even something less than that or greater than that, but it is written in a Clear Record.” (10:61)

2 thoughts on “Part 11 – Balancing Love Fear & Hope

  1. This information base on Qur’an and Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (saw) helps me out alot in my recovery/repentance. All praises due to Allah.

    1. Thank you so much for your message. Alhamdulillah I am pleased that this website is helpful to you. I pray it continues to be a source of strength for you. Thank you for sharing. May Allah help you and all of us in our recovery and repentance. Ameen

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